#38 Loneliness in systems by Marita Fridjhon

What is loneliness in systems? How does it get created? What are the challenges of relationships in systems? How can we overcome them? How can we talk about failure together in a team? What is needed to be able to hold that conversation?

About Marita Fridjhon

Marita Fridjhon, is the co-owner and CEO of CRR Global. She is a consultant to several large organizations and mentors a large number of practitioners in the field of Relationship Systems Intelligence. In addition, she designs curriculum and operates training programs for coaches, executives, and teams. She came to this work from an extensive background of Clinical Social Work, Community Development, and Process Work.

Key learning’s from the podcast:

1. Loneliness in systems occurs when we focus our attention too much on return on investments and too little on return on relationship.

The mental model where people on top of the organisations feel I need to have all answers, leads to disconnections.

1. Relationships become difficult when there is conflict and comparison. Team agreements need to be setup for teams to be efficient.

Team agreements are a living thing, that needs to be updated and talked about every now and then. As, humans are infinitely complex. Our relationships evolve and change over time. We are always work in progress.

1. Teams that harness the collective intelligence are the ones that go back to go back to the team agreements when things get difficult.
2. In relationships, it may seem at times that we are going slow if we go together but in the end we go faster.
3. One way for organizations to get innovative is to have a day to talk about “Failures”. Failures allow us to learn, grow and prototype differently.

Before you talk about your failures with others, it’s important to take time yourself to journal / log your failure and your learnings from it. And it’s your right to share what you want with others in the organization. So, STOP and talk about what didn’t work and what are we learning from it. It’s from these discoveries that innovation happens.

1. Safety is important in such conversations; this information should not be used for evaluations. These are prototyping conversations.
2. Have a “Gratitude journal”, write down what are you grateful for; share that with a colleague or co-worker. Gratitude journal helps build a healthy self-esteem. It then easier to look at the difficult things, like failure and learning that come along.

Remember

“If you want to go fast go alone, but if you want to go far go together.”

Togetherness is built through relationships and is the currency that runs organizations.

To know more about CRR Global: https://www.crrglobal.com

More about Marita: https://www.crrglobal.com/our-founders.html