10CBF: A Podcast for Blended Families
S1-E15 "Doing the Hard Tasks and Parental Influence in Blended Families" with Judy Graybill
Judy Graybill is a Relationship Healer, Certified Stepfamily Coach, and Executive Director of her company, Sensible Steps. Her formal degrees are in Psychology and Sociology, and she has earned her certification as a Stepfamily Coach from The Stepfamily Foundation. For nearly 12 years, Judy has been a guest speaker on tele-summits, radio shows, and podcasts like 'Reclaim Your Life After Divorce', 'Constructive Uncoupling', and 'The Father Show' With Mike Thompson; as well as having been quoted in periodicals, including alongside Drs. Patricia Papernow and Richard A. Warshak at Care.com.
In this interview, Judy discussed a number of different ways to improve your blended family dynamics, starting with doing the hard work necessary to make your family function in a more cooperative way. We discussed how both stepparents and bio-parents can have a positive influence on the family and why both are necessary to help a blended family reach its potential. Finally, she shares why it's important to seek out resources that speak to your unique family situation and dynamics. Enjoy the conversation and help your family grow!
"Find what the bio-parent doesn't want to do, and be willing to do that."
"Choose to believe the best--this is one of the hardest things for ex-spouses to do because they're worried the other parent is going to screw up their kid."
"Focus on being a more positive influence; kids know and form their own opinions."
"Understand what is unique about your stepfamily and find resources that speak to those aspects of your family."
Connect with Judy:
https://www.instagram.com/judy.m.graybill/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/judygraybill/
https://www.facebook.com/JudyMGraybill
Resources:
https://www.facebook.com/buckeyebonusmoms
https://www.stepfamilyrelationships.com/
https://www.amazon.com/Surviving-Thriving-Stepfamily-Relationships-Doesnt-ebook/dp/B00G6MQLXQ
https://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-Families/dp/0307440850