Mastering Happiness, with Dr. Joel F. Wade

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sOOnaH1iC-M In today’s show, we’re interviewing Dr. Joel Wade, of Mastering Happiness.  Dr. Wade is an Author, Psychotherapist, and Life Coach who’s centered his work on happiness, and helping people live happier, better, and more effective lives.  And we’re talking about true happiness and well-being, not simply the happiness of feeling good in a lucky moment of pleasure.  Instead, happiness is a set of skills, a practice, and an attitude toward life that you can learn and apply in whatever circumstances you are in. Where Happiness Fits into the Cash Flow System Here at The Money Advantage, we are a community of wealth creators who are entrepreneurially-minded business owners taking control of our lives and financial destiny.  It’s not enough to just make a great income.  You have to figure out how to keep more, protect that money, and finally, increase and make more through the right investing decisions. That’s why we have created the 3-step Business Owner’s Cash Flow System.  It’s your roadmap to take you from just surviving, to a life of significance, purpose, and financial freedom. The first step is keeping more of the money you make by fixing money leaks, becoming more efficient and profitable.  Then, you’ll protect your money with insurance and legal protection, and Privatized Banking.  Finally, you’ll put your money to work, increasing your income with cash-flowing assets. Today’s conversation will help you upgrade your mindset to be able to be a producer and creator of true life wealth, flourishing in every area of your life. Who Is Dr. Joel Wade? Joel F. Wade, Ph.D. is Marriage and Family Therapist and Life Coach, and the author of The Virtue of Happiness, and Mastering Happiness, and creator of an in-depth online course, A Master’s Course in Happiness, all drawing from the increasingly useful research in psychology in general, and positive psychology in particular; and his nearly four decades of working with people professionally. He has written regularly for a variety of publications, including The New Individualist, The Good Men Project, and the Beyond Wealth columns for the Oxford Club. He’s also a world-class athlete, having won multiple national and world championships in water polo. Dr. Wade enjoys teaching clear, practical skills and ideas that can be used immediately. He inspires his readers and listeners to take effective steps toward a more rewarding, joyful, and resilient life. As a Life Coach, he works with people around the world and can be found at www.drjoelwade.com. Joel Wade Conversation Highlights What Is Happiness? Happiness doesn’t mean a temperament and personality of cheerfulness. Rather, happiness is Aristotle’s eudaimonia, which means success at being human. Martin Seligman moved psychology away from treating symptoms, to the habits for creating a flourishing, happy, successful life. He also created the original research on learned helplessness. When you focus on what you’re aiming for, the problems become smaller in comparison, and you have more resources to tackle the problems with. The difference between being happy about life, vs. being happy about your circumstances. You can’t base life’s happiness on circumstances, because there’s a lot of external luck to that. Happiness is more a matter of being happy about your life and living in a way that’s congruent with your value system. Don’t be too attached to the outcomes or the score. Instead, take control over your own focus, attention, skills, and playing my best. Carol Dweck’s work on a fixed mindset vs. a growth mindset. With a fixed mindset, you aren’t an agent in your own success, and challenges become risks and threats.  With a growth mindset, you celebrate challenges.  Overcoming challenges and failures makes success and happiness that much more valuable.  We need challenges that push us to expand and create more comp...