The Great Man Within 9 Fears That Prevent Powerful Boundaries (DQ Solo)
Aug 28, 2020
27:41
#159: One of the surefire ways to sabotage your performance (and overall well-being) is to be inept at establishing and maintaining powerful boundaries.
As Dr. Henry Cloud says in his book Boundaries: When to Say, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life:
“Boundaries help define your soul, and they help you to guard it and maintain it.”
If you’re not into “soul” talk, boundaries also help you define:
- What you say yes, and what you say no to
- What you stand for
- What allows you to live your Great Man more often
In Boundaries, Dr. Cloud outlines 9 reasons why we fail to establish or enforce powerful boundaries:
- Fear of hurting the other person’s feelings
- Fear of abandonment and separateness
- A wish to be totally dependent on another
- Fear of someone else’s anger
- Fear of punishment
- Fear of being shamed
- Fear of being seen as bad or selfish
- Fear of being unspiritual
- Fear of one’s over-strict, over-critical conscience
In today’s episode of The Great Man Within Podcast, I share about:
- My own struggles with establishing boundaries (as a recovering people-pleaser)
- Why fear #1 above allowed others to take advantage of me
- Why fears #4 and #6 keep you from speaking your truth, and why you’ll hate yourself for it
- How to navigate through the uncomfortable process of authoring, communicating and enforcing boundaries that keep you living On Purpose
-DQ