Level: Asian I Thought I Was Ready to Be a Dad. I Wasn't | Ep. 86
Welcome to your unofficial dad therapy session, AKA this week’s ep on the realities of fatherhood 💭🍼
Kan's coming in hot with seven brutal, beautiful truths he’s learned as a dad (so far). We’re talking outdated advice that feels like junk food, the gut-punch of watching your kid get sick, and why you’re not the hero—you’re the bodyguard.
Also: why “clichés” about parenting aren’t actually clichés once you’re in it, how toddler meltdowns at restaurants teach spiritual patience, and the emotional legacy of being raised by migrant parents (plus the generational guilt we all carry).
We get deep on:
- The real digital dangers your kids face (and why you need to be the algorithm)
- Why some boys are looking for father figures in all the wrong places
- Creating psychological safety at home (it’s not just vibes)
- Dads being missing from TikTok—but not from this convo
And yes, we talk about being too tired to function, crying over old baby photos, and why dying with zero might actually be the goal.
This isn’t a parenting TED Talk. It’s raw, reflective, and full of the sh*t we wish someone told us earlier.
🎧 Listen in, cry if you need, and maybe text your dad after.
✨ If you’ve got a topic you want us to unpack next, drop it in the comments!