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The Biology of Trauma® With Dr. Aimie

Invisible Adoption and Attachment Pain: When High Achievement Masks Childhood Wounds with JJ Virgin

Jan 28, 2025
24:05

What are common beliefs we form about ourselves that leave us unable to connect, trust and receive love later as adults?

Have you ever wondered why success doesn't automatically translate to feeling fulfilled? 

Or why, despite all our achievements, there's still that nagging feeling that we need to prove ourselves? Today's episode sharing an adoption story might just explain why. 

Today, JJ Virgin joins me to share a deeply personal story that is part of her reason for her remarkable professional success. In this episode, JJ talks openly about the challenges of growing up feeling like she had to rely only on herself, how those feelings drove her to professional success, and the breakthroughs she’s experienced that have helped her heal old wounds, become a proud mom and find love. 

Yet, this conversation isn’t just for those who have been adopted— though it will help you understand yourself better if you have and help you understand anyone in your life who has been. Rather, this episode is about recognizing the unconscious pain that we carry from our childhood. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How early experiences shape our beliefs about love, trust, and self-worth  
  • The conundrum of relying only on ourselves 
  • Simple ways to build trust when we haven’t been able to trust others
  • How to better support those in your life who have a history of being adopted 

For more information and show notes, please visit our website: https://biologyoftrauma.com/biology-of-trauma-podcast/

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