
 The BEMA Podcast
 The BEMA Podcast 469: Vice & Virtue — Lust
 Sep 18, 2025 
 Reed Dent, a thoughtful voice on spirituality, joins Marty Solomon and Brent Billings to explore the vice of lust. They delve into Augustine's insights on disordered desires and use a 'Game Genie' analogy to highlight the hollowness of instant gratification. Discussing Aquinas, they examine how lust distorts intimacy and genuine connection. The conversation critiques how church culture complicates sexuality, emphasizing the importance of seeing people's full humanity rather than objectifying them. Practical tips are offered for overcoming habitual lust, focusing on community and self-examination. 
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Postponing Change Is A Common Trap
- Augustine confessed he begged God for chastity but added, "not yet," revealing the pull of delaying true change.
- Reed uses this to show lust often seeks satisfaction over healing and postpones deeper transformation.
Good Desire Turned Distorted
- Lust is a good desire misdirected into making pleasure the ultimate goal.
- Reed and Marty emphasize that sex and the body are good but require proper place and restraint to flourish.
Lust Engineers Solo Happiness
- Rebecca DeYoung: lust is trying to engineer happiness on one's own terms with pleasure as the goal.
- This explains why intimacy, responsibility, and connection get jettisoned in pursuit of pleasure.












