370: Chasing vs. Coasting: Why the Dynamics Change for Both Sexes

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld.

0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro

01:51 Q1: Are men destined to hold more power in relationships due to women being the higher investment party?

09:23 What are relationships?

18:08 Are women the only ones who need affirmation & esteem signals?

34:30 What do we need in a relationship?

46:32 The only hope for a dying relationship

Q1: Are men destined to hold more power in relationships, aka in a position of power, because women are always the higher investment party? In my experience with a few long-term relationships, the men stopped caring for and investing in my emotional well-being after the initial phase of chasing and courting. They're nice, hardworking, and sincere, but I no longer receive the esteem signals and affirmation that women often need, especially after having kids, since they know I'm not going anywhere. Am I asking for too much? Should I just be happy knowing he's a good provider of resources?

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Web: www.beatyourgenes.org

Doug Lisle, PhD www.esteemdynamics.com

Nathan Gershfeld, DC www.fastingescape.com

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