Family of Origin Wounds: How They Shape Divorce and Healing

What if your deepest shame wasn’t actually yours to carry?

If you’ve ever felt the cold shoulder from your Christian family after your divorce, or you’re still untangling the sticky spiderwebs of shame and silence from your upbringing, pull up a chair. This episode is for you.

I sat down with friend and fellow coach, Diana Swillinger, and together we unpacked how family of origin dynamics continue to haunt, shape, and sometimes straight-up sabotage your healing after divorce.

Here’s what we discuss:

• What if the heavy load you’ve been dragging around was never yours to begin with?
• Could their cutting looks and guilt-trips actually say more about them than about you?
• What if boundaries weren’t about controlling others at all but something far more personal?
• At what point do parents stop calling the spiritual shots in your life?
• Is it possible that saying “no more contact” could actually be a sacred act?
• Why does the loss of “what should’ve been” sting almost more than the loss itself?
• Can forgiveness bring peace without flinging the door wide open again?

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

• Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is a life-changing mentorship program for divorced Christian women pursuing increased confidence, emotional management, relational health and empowered self-development.
• Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace. 
• Check out Diana’s website and explore some resources, listen to her podcast, The Renew Your Mind Podcast, and finally, connect with her on Facebook and Instagram.
• Dive into the books recommended in today’s episode, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief and Forgiveness After Trauma. You can also listen to the interview I did with the author of Forgiveness After Trauma on the Flying Free Podcast, Episode 281.