Part 2: Moving Through Hurts

Have you ever felt stuck in a relationship because of conflict? As we continue our series, Conflicted, JP teaches through Matthew 18:15-17, showing us how to overlook a small offense, clearly express our hurt, and widen the circle.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

- Whether you realize it or not, conflict affects every single relationship you have, and because God loves you, He has given you everything you need to get through it.

- A healthier Harris Creek will have more conflict, not less.

- Did you know that Jesus prayed for you? He prayed that you would live in unity with other Christians the same way He and the Father are unified.

- As a summary of the first message in our series, Conflicted: See conflict as an opportunity; own your part; and, conflict is pressing...there is an urgency to it.

- Overlook a small offense.

- Are you more prone to peace-faking or peace-breaking? If faking, you probably need to pursue offenses more. If breaking, you probably need to overlook offenses more.

- If you can’t overlook something, you should go address it with the person.

- God in His kindness gave us three really clear steps for how to deal with conflict.

- Clearly express your hurt.

- When someone hurts you go and tell them: “You hurt me by _______”.

- Three helpful questions to help you assess what’s going on in your heart are: How do I feel? What did the offense cost me? What am I asking for from them?

- A crystal clear application of the first part of this Scripture is to go and talk to someone, just between the two of you.

- The 24-hour rule: If someone talks to you about someone behind their back, give that person 24-hours to go tell the person they talked about, and if they don’t, go with them to talk to the person together.

- God is in the business of putting things back together through His Son so that the world would see His Son.

- Widen the circle.

- Stay in the ring and don’t get out of the ring...only bring in others who are part of the problem or part of the solution.

- Church discipline is helping people see their blind spots, protecting the flock from wolves, and helping members see their clear path to redemption.

- Church discipline is not publicly shaming someone. It’s all about restoration and unity so that Christ may be more known.

- Conflict is hard, yes. However, the cross was hard, and God loved us enough to go through with it so that we could be in a relationship with Him again.

MENTIONED OR RECOMMENDED RESOURCES

- Suggested Scripture study: Matthew 18:15-17; Ephesians 4:1-3; John 17:20-23; Proverbs 19:11

- Conflict Field Guide

- Conflicted week 1