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Mamamia Out Loud

When You Want To Be ‘Unmarried’ But Not Divorced

Dec 28, 2024
David Finch, an Autism and Neurodiversity consultant and author of "The Journal of Best Practices," shares his unique perspective on being 'unmarried' instead of divorced. He explores the emotional intricacies of modern relationships, particularly those influenced by neurodivergence. Finch delves into his journey of self-discovery post-diagnosis and the challenges of marriage, discussing the importance of empathy in love. He humorously navigates the pressures of authenticity in dating and reflects on how relationships evolve through shared experiences.
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  • David Finch's journey to becoming 'unmarried' illustrates a flexible approach to relationships that prioritizes individual identity and growth.
  • His Asperger's diagnosis highlighted key relational challenges, leading to improved understanding and communication with his wife, Kristen.

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The Concept of Being 'Unmarried'

David Finch and his wife came to the unconventional conclusion of becoming 'unmarried,' a concept that confused David initially. The discussion revealed that while their traditional marriage had its challenges, David's commitment to perfection in his role as a husband ultimately led to strain in their relationship. Kristen expressed a desire to step away from conventional marriage, indicating that she wanted to navigate their relationship outside of traditional expectations and roles. This transformation allowed both partners to explore their identities and dynamics in a more flexible, less pressured context.

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