Why do some leaders command respect while others get ignored? In this episode of Social Intelligence, Stanford professor and venture capitalist Robert Siegel breaks down the overlooked behaviors that separate average performers from high-impact leaders.

Drawing on decades of research and real-world business experience, Robert shares how humility, listening, and honest self-reflection are the key ingredients to long-term success. You’ll learn how to thrive in chaotic environments, shift from control to trust, and build loyalty in the people you lead — whether you’re running a startup, a classroom, or a family.

What to Listen For

[00:00:00] Why Robert’s background in tech and venture capital revealed a pattern in great leaders
[00:03:11] What leaders miss when they mistake charisma for competence
[00:07:19] The value of slowing down and listening — even when you’re under pressure
[00:10:32] Why being the smartest person in the room can make you ineffective
[00:14:09] Lessons from Motorola: how “hero culture” undermined the team
[00:18:23] The danger of over-optimizing for control instead of building trust
[00:25:00] The “credibility bank account” and how it affects influence and decision-making
[00:31:11] What CEOs often miss about emotional intelligence
[00:38:30] The role of humility in hiring, managing, and growing a company
[00:44:15] Why balancing empathy and execution is the mark of a real leader
[00:51:20] The underrated superpower of asking good questions instead of giving answers
[00:56:42] What Robert teaches his Stanford students about legacy and influence

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