Totally Booked with Zibby Amanda Goetz, TOXIC GRIT: How to Have It All and (Actually) Love What You Have
Nov 13, 2025
Amanda Goetz, a two-time CEO and author of 'Toxic Grit,' shares her journey as a single mom balancing a high-powered career and personal life. She introduces 'toxic grit,' defined as hustle without intention, and emphasizes the importance of intentional recovery periods. Amanda highlights the significance of acknowledging different internal characters—career-driven, maternal, and sensual—and eliminating guilt by living with purpose. She also discusses how visualizing the 'perfect day' can reshape priorities and lead to more fulfilling choices.
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Conflicting Selves Cause The Friction
- Amanda Goetz realized the friction in “having it all” comes from conflicting versions of yourself, not from the idea of ‘all.’
- She calls this 'character theory' and urges creating space for multiple internal characters with different goals.
Avoid Hustle Without Intention
- Avoid 'toxic grit,' which Amanda defines as hustle without intention, by adding checkpoints and spin cycles to your life.
- Schedule intentional recovery periods so hustle has purpose and you avoid burnout.
Use Rituals To Shift Roles
- Create transition sequences when shifting characters, like Amanda's 20-minute Bluey bath to go from CEO to mom.
- Use brief rituals to decompress and be fully present in the next role instead of switching instantly.
