Dopey 534: Abbey Fickley Returns + Rest in Peace Ray the Clammer; Motherhood, Relapse, Internet Backlash… and 40 Years of Clamming, Cocaine, and Redemption

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ABBEY:

Postpartum anxiety and getting prescribed benzos

Her first time using heroin — in sober living

Moving back to Pittsburgh with her dad to get her life together

Building a YouTube following with her daughter Myla

Dealing with fame, trolls, and the dark side of "sober influencer" culture

Why she stopped posting her daughter online

Setting boundaries in co-parenting

The emotional side of recovery, relapse, and internet backlash

Her evolving relationship with recovery, privacy, and motherhood

🦪 Part 2: Ray the Clammer – A Tribute

Growing up on the South Shore, catching clams with his feet

First time freebasing: “My heart exploded. I fell to my knees. It was great.”

Ten years of coke dealing, freebasing, and losing everything

Smoking away all the product, burning bridges, losing his union job

Homeless in NYC, sleeping under Port Authority, working “security” for a pimp named Otis

Suicidal thoughts in the subway tunnels

The moment he didn't jump, and got back on the train to Long Island

Brought home by police as a missing person

Finds NA, relapses, gets honest — and stays sober from 1993 until his death

Devoted to service: rides, hotlines, detox speaking, always showing up

Passed away with 30 years clean — this recording was his goodbye gift to Dopey Nation

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