Talking about the future can be scary – especially if you're not operating at the exact same speed as your partner. We're talking with Dr. Alexandra Solomon about how to navigate a pace discrepancy – whether it's becoming exclusive, moving in together, getting engaged, or entering whatever next life stage. We discuss how to share your needs without making it an ultimatum, tactics to help both the faster-paced and slower-paced partners, and why it's important to determine if you can eventually forward move together or if you simply aren't on the same page.

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