Securely Attached Q&A: Dating in parenthood: What’s the best way to approach meeting my new girlfriend's kids?
Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...
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Why intentionality and authenticity are the most important tools when building new relationships with kids.
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How to manage nerves, regulate your own emotions, and follow the children’s lead so the interaction feels natural and comfortable.
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Practical strategies for structuring the first meeting (think short, sweet, semi-structured, and supervised) to set everyone up for success.
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How to consider the larger family context, including co-parenting dynamics and whether a conversation with the children’s dad could be helpful.
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Why keeping expectations realistic and aiming simply for “they’d like to see me again” can take the pressure off and allow genuine connection to grow over time.
Whether you’re stepping into a blended family yourself, supporting a partner who is, or just curious about how kids adjust to new relationships, this episode offers insight, validation, and practical takeaways to make those first meetings a little less daunting—and a lot more positive!
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ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:
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🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about whether or not you want to choose to “nest” during separations
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