#348 How to Keep the Flame Blazing in Longterm Relationships - with Dr. Alison Ash

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Sep 26, 2023

Dr. Alison Ash, a relationship expert and therapist, discusses common obstacles that contribute to couples losing the spark over time. They explore the pressure couples feel around sex and how to overcome it. Dr. Ash shares important skills for rekindling and maintaining a passionate flame in long-term relationships. They also discuss the challenges of sex, long-term relationships, and parenting, as well as strategies for navigating relationship issues.

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Introduction

00:00 • 2min

Pre-ordering the Book and Online Workshop Benefits

01:53 • 3min

Guest Admiration, Costa Rica Retreat, and Sex Question Submission

04:24 • 5min

Methods for Increasing Genital Size and Blood Flow

09:47 • 3min

Building Intimacy and Processing Emotional Barriers

12:38 • 17min

Taking Baby Steps in Relationships

29:25 • 8min

The Importance of Self-Care and Intimacy in Parenting

37:28 • 12min

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49:19 • 5min

Shifting Away from the Nuclear Family Model

54:25 • 9min

Closing Remarks and Book Announcement

01:03:45 • 3min

What are some common obstacles that contribute to couples losing the spark over time? What are some of the ways couples experience pressure around sex, where does it come from, and how can they overcome it? What skill are most important for couples to learn so they can bring sexy back and rekindle the flame, as well as keep that flame burning in the long run? What about sex, longterm relationships and parenting? What are some things that can be helpful for parents to consider? How about when shit hits the fan and the relationship feels like a mess? What can couples do when things go awry?

About our guest: Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering intimate experiences. She also draws on her extensive training in the Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy, Innate Somatic Intelligence Trauma Therapy Approach, and Somatica Method of sex and intimacy coaching to support her clients to radically explore and courageously express themselves. Dr. Aly designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to be able to cultivate and sustain nourishing emotional and sexual intimacy. Dr. Aly invites you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love

Click here to learn more about Dr. Aly's Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game 4 week course for couples, starting October, 2023. Use the discount code LoveShamelessSex for $100 off.

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