Ep. 39: A Conversation About The Wisdom of Jealousy with Dr. Joli Hamilton

Hey everyone! Welcome to today’s episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today’s episode, I’m joined by Dr. Joli Hamilton to talk about jealousy, how jealousy manifests somatically, and rational vs emotional responses to jealousy. Dr Hamilton also talks about finding items that help to tackle feelings of jealousy, experimenting with relationship agreements, and the importance of acknowledging jealousy as a normal human emotion.

Let’s delve in!

 

In this Episode You’ll Learn:

• [01:14] About Dr. Hamilton.
• [03:45] “Don’t you get jealous?”
• [05:29] What can you do with jealousy?
• [09:00] What is jealousy?
• [10:06] Jealousy vs envy.
• [12:22] What makes up jealousy?
• [14:01] Rationalizing jealousy.
• [19:15] Figuring out what you need.
• [26:13] Explicit relationship agreements.
• [28:40] Regulating your reactions.
• [31:41] Jealousy’s words of wisdom.
• [34:08] Using jealousy to connect with your beloved.
• [37:32] Dr. Hamilton’s advice.

 

Quotes:

• “I don’t have to enjoy the feeling of jealousy to be grateful for its gifts.” [03:30]
• “You can imagine jealousy into existence.” [09:50]
• “The core of jealousy is this fear of interruption, and the core of envy is longing.” [10:40]
• “Logic doesn’t work.” [15:50]
• “My job is to tell you that you care so much, so see me.” [33:44]
• “Jealousy is an invitation to deeper intimacy.” [34:34]
• “Jealousy is normal. It’s normal in all kinds of relationships.” [37:55]
• “Jealousy isn’t the raw material for compersion. Joy is the raw material of compersion.” [39:44]

 

Connect with Dr. Joli Hamilton

Website:            www.jolihamilton.com.

LinkedIn:            Dr. Joli Hamilton.

Instagram:          @drjoli_hamilton.

 

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website:            https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram:          @thewright_rachel

Twitter:              @thewrightrachel

 

Resources

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