Helping Boys Become Resilient with Dr. Sandy Gluckman

How do you help boys become resilient?  It's easy enough to say that resiliency is important, and we know that the ability to bounce back in spite of obstacles is essential for success and happiness in life. But how exactly does one build resilience? Contrary to popular belief, you can't teach a child resilience, says Dr. Sandy Gluckman, a psychologist. Rather, you create a climate that allows a child to develop self-knowledge and self-confidence. Most of our boys spend a lot of times in environments that don't help them feel good. School, for instance, is not a good fit, developmentally speaking, for most boys, and it's easy for boys to assume that something is wrong with them when they can't read or write as well as their female classmates. Pushing your child to do things that he's not ready or willing to do is NOT the answer. Your intentions may be good, but you'll actually increase the levels of stress hormones coursing through your son's body, and a stressed brain and body is not ready or able to learn. One of the quickest, most effective ways to ease your son's stress is to take care of yourself. You cannot effectively parent your son while you're in a state of stress because your son will sense the anger, fear, and concern behind your carefully chosen words. Taking time for yourself -- both in moments of high stress and on a regular basis -- allows you to parent from a place of peace, which, in turn, allows your son's nervous system to relax. Then, you can turn your attention toward helping your son recognize his inherent worth. In this episode, Jen, Janet & Dr. Sandy discuss: The link between resilience and brain chemistry Interpersonal neurobiology -- or, how parents' emotional state affects their children How feeling "not good enough" affects our brains and bodies The fight, flight or freeze stress response Inflammatory vs. non-inflammatory parenting How deep breathing can help you be a better parent How to build your son's self-esteem Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode: drsandygluckman.com -- Dr. Sandy's website www.youtube.com/user/sandygluckman -- Dr. Sandy's YouTube channel Parents, Take Charge! Healing Learning, Behavior and Mood Challenges Without Medication, by Dr. Sandy Gluckman Why You Need to Stop Focusing on Your Boys' Bickering -- Building Boys blog post How Confidence and Joy Spark Success -- ON BOYS episode Self-Esteem and Boys -- ON BOYS episode STAY CONNECTED WITH JANET & JEN: Join the Building Boys FB group and the Boys Alive! FB group Be sure to opt-in at  Boys Alive! .com for your free report “3 Simple Tips to CONNECT with Your Boy.”  And subscribe to Building Boys Bulletin, a weekly email newsletter filled w boy-specific info & inspiration. Follow us on Instagram:  @on.boys.podcast and @boys.alive Twitter:  @ParentAdvisor and @BuildingBoys  LinkedIn:  use this link for Janet and use this link for Jennifer

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