Relationship Matters Ep.6.8 Emotional Intelligence Masterclass
Jan 14, 2025
Join Cynthia Loy Darst, Kiki Kesseler, Neil Edwards, and Yuri Morikawa in a deep dive into emotional intelligence. Cynthia discusses how our triggered selves can be constructively engaged, while Kiki reflects on vulnerability as a key to reconnecting in long-term relationships. Neil emphasizes the importance of recognizing positive aspects to foster creativity, whereas Yuri highlights the dangers of toxic positivity and the need for authentic emotional expression. This enriching conversation is packed with essential insights for nurturing healthier connections.
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Awareness Creates Choice
- Awareness of our emotions creates choice and reduces unconscious reactivity.
- Experiencing emotions with curiosity turns them into useful information rather than problems.
Emotions Are Constructed Predictions
- The brain constructs emotions through prediction based on body signals, context and past experience.
- Mis-predictions (like hunger labeled as anger) show why we must question initial emotional narratives.
Talk To Your Triggered Self
- Notice and dialogue with the triggered part that takes over rather than judging it as 'nasty'.
- Ask who that part is and what agreement led it to protect you so you can renegotiate its role.
