In this episode, the hosts discuss narcissism from a neurosomatic intelligence perspective. They explore the development of narcissism, its impact on relationships, and the emotional aspects of narcissistic behavior. The connection between narcissism and empathy is examined, along with the possibility of change for narcissists. The concept of personality disorders and the desire for change in individuals with narcissistic tendencies are also explored. The chapter concludes by emphasizing the importance of understanding nervous system regulation in creating healthier relationships.
Understanding the neurobiology of narcissism and its link to brain development, behavior, and society is crucial when dealing with narcissistic individuals.
While change is possible for individuals with narcissistic tendencies through neuro-somatic integration, it primarily depends on the individual's motivation and willingness to change.
Deep dives
Understanding the loaded concept of narcissism
Narcissism is a word that carries a heavy emotional weight and is often misunderstood. This podcast episode explores the neurology of narcissism and delves into the possibility of change for both narcissists and individuals affected by them. The discussion connects narcissism to attachment styles and the development of the nervous system. It highlights the broad definition of narcissistic personality disorder and the signs of narcissistic traits, such as manipulation, control issues, and a constant need for attention. The episode emphasizes the importance of understanding the neurobiology behind narcissism and its link to brain development, behavior, and society.
The neurobiology of narcissism
The neurobiology of narcissism involves key brain areas such as the insular cortex, prefrontal cortex, and ventral striatum. The insular cortex plays a role in self-perception and social interactions, while the prefrontal cortex is involved in decision-making and emotional inhibition. The ventral striatum is responsible for reward processing. Research indicates that individuals with high narcissism scores have lower connectivity in certain brain areas, affecting their self-perception and positive thinking. The reward circuitry of narcissists is also skewed, with behaviors that prioritize self-aggrandizement and external validation. These neurobiological factors contribute to narcissistic tendencies and the need for constant affirmation.
Understanding the emotional dynamics of narcissism
The emotional aspects of narcissism involve difficulties in expressing and experiencing emotions. Individuals with narcissistic tendencies often downplay their own and others' emotions, lacking empathy and exhibiting manipulative behavior. The insular cortex, which influences emotional experience and regulation, may be implicated in these challenges. Narcissistic individuals may have developed maladaptive strategies for emotional regulation due to emotional neglect, unstable relationships, or other factors during development. The hypersensitivity to external validation and the inability to share in others' emotions drive the narcissist's need for power and manipulation in relationships.
Is change possible for narcissistic tendencies?
The possibility of change for individuals with narcissistic tendencies is discussed. While change is always possible for the nervous system, the motivation to change may be lacking in narcissistic individuals. Those who recognize their tendencies and desire healthier relationships have the potential for change through neuro-somatic integration (NSI) and rewiring the brain. NSI focuses on the insular cortex, prefrontal cortex, and reward circuits to regulate emotions and reshape behavior patterns. However, it is important to note that change primarily lies in the hands of the individual, and it is essential for others to prioritize their own safety, setting healthy boundaries, and seeking support when in relationships with narcissistic individuals.
What’s the difference between possessing narcissistic traits and being a narcissist? Can we say narcissistic personality disorder is real when we don’t believe in personalities? How does narcissism develop, and what does it look like in the brain? Tune in as your hosts answer all these questions and more with Matt Bush of Neuro-Somatic Intelligence.
This episode explores the neurology of narcissism, the spectrum of narcissism, and how narcissism can evolve as a survival response when it seems so counterintuitive to our social need for connection. Matt is an expert in applied neurology, so he shares the science of what narcissism looks like in the brain, such as where deficits exist in the brain and how they reflect in a narcissist's emotional skills and empathy towards others.
Jennifer, Elisabeth and Matt also discuss malignant narcissism, narcissistic attachment, and the allure of a codependent or empathic person for a narcissist. Most importantly, they discuss if change is possible for narcissists and how you can protect yourself from a narcissist.
Listen to this episode to gain a better understanding of narcissism through the lens of neurosomatic intelligence!
Topics discussed in this episode:
Definition of narcissistic personality disorder
How narcissism develops from an NSI perspective
What narcissism looks like in the brain
The reward circuit in the narcissistic brain
Why narcissists lack empathy
How narcissists experience emotions
Can narcissists change?
What you should do if you have a narcissist in your life
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