452: You Yelled... Now What? How to Repair and Reconnect // Devon Kuntzman

We all lose our temper sometimes. That’s part of being human—and part of being a mom. But what happens next matters most. Because repair, not perfection, is what builds real trust with our kids.

In this week’s episode, I’m joined by Devon Kuntzman from Transforming Toddlerhood to talk about one of the most healing and hopeful skills a parent can learn: how to reconnect after those hard moments. Devon shares a simple, four-step framework for circling back after we’ve yelled or overreacted—so instead of getting stuck in guilt, we can model accountability, empathy, and growth.

Even though Devon primarily teaches parents of toddlers, this conversation applies beautifully to kids of all ages (trust me—my teen and tween are proof!).

In this episode, you’ll learn:

💜 The one phrase that instantly shifts your apology from surface-level to deeply connecting

💜 Why skipping this often-forgotten step in your apology can actually keep your child from trusting you fully

💜 A powerful, brain-based reason to “redo” the moment—and how this single practice can help you yell less over time

You’ll walk away with words you can use, steps you can remember, and a renewed sense of grace for yourself as a beautifully human mom.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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