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Fucking Feelings: The Attunement Model of Consent

Oct 3, 2023
The podcast discusses the attunement model of consent as an alternative to the contractual model. It explores the importance of clear communication, setting boundaries, and different communication styles in consent. The hosts challenge traditional gender scripts and explore the role of context and attunement in effective communication. They also discuss repairing ruptures in everyday relationships, responsible sexual encounters, and valuing the erotic in consent.
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Quick takeaways

  • Attunement and non-verbal cues play a crucial role in consent, challenging the contractual model of ongoing verbal asking.
  • Shared responsibility in communication is necessary for clear understanding and mutual consent in sexual relationships.

Deep dives

Understanding the Contractual Model of Consent

The podcast episode explores the contractual model of consent commonly taught in consent education and its limitations. The model emphasizes the importance of verbal, ongoing, and explicit consent for each sexual act. However, the speaker argues that this model does not align with real-life sexual experiences and desires. Many people find it clunky, unerotic, and unrealistic, leading to communication difficulties and potential misunderstandings. The speaker suggests that attunement, deep listening, and non-verbal cues play a crucial role in consent. Understanding body language, changes in behavior, and being open to other forms of communication are important for attaining a more nuanced understanding of consent.

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