shame series part 1: healthy shame makes you human

What is this sneaky yet destructive thing called toxic shame, and could it be the root cause of our continued suffering and emotional dysregulation? Toxic shame lies at the heart of most self-sabotaging behaviors that keep us feeling empty, unfulfilled, and disconnected from others. Signs of internalized toxic shame can manifest in various ways and differ from person to person. Persistent feelings of unworthiness, negative self-talk, perfectionism, fear of vulnerability and intimacy, difficulty setting boundaries, chronic self-consciousness, avoidant behaviors, negative body image, and emotional instability can all be indicators of toxic shame. This is part one in a multi-episode series aimed at helping you alchemize and transmute your toxic shame. Check out the time-stamps below for a more detailed description of the topics covered.

TIME STAMPS

00:00 – 13:48: How mythical interpretations of journeys “into the underworld” can help us understand the process of alchemizing toxic shame

13:48 – 17:56: Shame as myth and allegory

17:56 – 32:50: How toxic shame impacts our sense of Self

32:50 – 37:23: Can shame be healthy?

37:23 – 49:04: When do we develop a sense of shame in childhood? (Psychosocial stage 2)

49:04 – 52:16: Shame as embarrassment

52:16 – 55:21: Shame as shyness

52:21 – 59:12: Shame and community

59:12 – 01:03:07: Shame as a spark for creativity

01:03:07 – 01:05:31: How shame is viewed from a spiritual perspective

01:05:31 – 01:13:23: What happens if we don’t develop a sense of healthy shame? (Shamelessness and its impact on our lives)

01:13:23 – 01:49:10 – Control as a trauma response (how chronic trauma can lead to controlling or caretaking behaviors)

01:49:10 – 01:56:15: Heart opening + shame reduction mantras / affirmations

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The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional.

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