Amy Harris, "Being Single in Georgian England: Families, Households, and the Unmarried" (Oxford UP, 2023)
Nov 21, 2023
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In this podcast, Amy Harris, author of 'Being Single in Georgian England: Families, Households, and the Unmarried,' explores the experiences of unmarried individuals and childless family members in Georgian England. Topics include marriage standards, sibling conflict, family dynamics, the role of aunts and uncles, and 18th-century genealogical practices.
The close relationship between the Sharp siblings challenges traditional notions of masculinity and showcases alternative ways men can find fulfillment.
Sibling relationships play a significant role in shaping individual choices regarding marriage, challenging traditional family structures.
The role of aunts and uncles as surrogate parents to the nieces in the absence of their parents challenges the traditional notion of the nuclear family.
Deep dives
Strong Sibling Bonds and Non-Traditional Household Dynamics
The podcast explores the close and unique relationship among the Sharp siblings. Despite not conforming to the traditional married-with-children structure of households, the siblings maintain a strong bond and shared identity. They set up their own households before getting married, with some even choosing to live with their unmarried siblings. The siblings actively participate in each other's lives, offering support, reassurance, and companionship. The close relationship between the siblings challenges the traditional notion of masculinity tied to being a married head of household, showcasing alternative ways in which men could find fulfillment and contribute to domestic life.
Sibling Influence in Marital Decisions
The podcast highlights the significant influence of siblings in the Sharp family on each other's marital decisions. With the absence of parents due to early deaths, the siblings rely more on each other for emotional support and guidance. As they are financially stable and socially well-connected, they do not face external pressure to marry early. Instead, they prioritize maintaining their strong sibling bonds and the freedom to enjoy their lives together. This emphasis on sibling relationships challenges traditional ideas of family structures and highlights the importance of siblings in shaping individual choices regarding marriage.
The Role of Aunts and Uncles in the Absence of Children
In the absence of many children in the Sharp family, the podcast explores the significant roles played by aunts and uncles in the lives of the nieces and nephews. The Sharp siblings, who only have a few surviving children among them, develop deep bonds with their nieces, acting as surrogate parents and providing guidance and intimacy. The aunts and uncles actively participate in the upbringing of their nieces, creating a special dynamic that challenges the traditional notion of the nuclear family. The podcast examines the impact of these aunt-uncle relationships on the nieces' lives and the significance of their presence in the absence of their parents.
The Sharp siblings prioritize their sibling relationships over marriage.
The Sharp siblings, a group of single siblings in their 20s and 30s, prioritize their close-knit bond and social activities over marriage. They create their own social scene, hosting parties and sacred concerts. They do not seem bothered by the pressure to marry and make jokes about it. Their focus on sibling relationships and mutual enjoyment leads to a calculation that if one of them marries, it should be someone who can seamlessly join their tight-knit group.
The importance of maintaining unity amongst the siblings.
The Sharp siblings work hard to maintain their unity and the perception of unanimity amongst themselves. They avoid conflicts and disagreements, ensuring that any deep conflicts are not written down or passed on. When conflicts arise, such as when one of the siblings gets married and there are concerns about living arrangements, they communicate in a constrained and diplomatic manner to address the issue without causing further rifts within the group. They prioritize their close relationships and the bonds they share, making collective decisions to preserve what they perceive as fortunate and exceptional.
Being Single in Georgian England: Families, Households, and the Unmarried(Oxford University Press, 2023) by Dr. Amy Harris is the first book-length exploration of what family life looked like, and how it was experienced, when viewed from the perspective of unmarried and childless family members. Using a microhistorical approach, Dr. Harris covers three generations of the famous musical and abolitionist Sharp family. The abundance of records the Sharps produced and preserved reveals how single family members influenced the household economy, marital decisions, childrearing practices, and conceptions about lineage and genealogy. The importance of childhood relationships and the life-long nature of siblinghood stand out as central aspects of Sharp family life, no matter their marital status. Along the way, Being Single explores humour, music, religious practice and belief, death and mourning, infertility, disability, slavery, abolition, philanthropy, and family memory.
The Sharps' experiences uncover how important lateral kin like siblings and cousins were to marital and household decisions. The analysis also reveals additional layers of Georgian family life, including: single sociability not centred on courtship; the importance of aunting and uncling on their own terms; the ways charitable acts and philanthropic endeavours could serve as outlets or partial replacements for parenthood; and how genealogical practices could be tied to values and identity instead of to biological descendants' possession of property.
This interview was conducted by Dr. Miranda Melcher whose forthcoming book focuses on post-conflict military integration, understanding treaty negotiation and implementation in civil war contexts, with qualitative analysis of the Angolan and Mozambican civil wars.