The Disciple-Making Parent AudioBlog What Causes Fights and Quarrels [In My Marriage]?
Nov 21, 2025
Explore the causes of marital conflict through the lens of James 4:1-2. Understand how inner turmoil and competing desires lead to quarrels. Discover the importance of reframing disputes and questioning the impulse to blame your partner. Learn practical solutions like prayer for addressing personal stress and desires. Ultimately, find out how resolving conflicts can model gospel-centered principles for your children.
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Root Causes Are Internal Desires
- Marital fights often stem from desires battling within individuals rather than only from the other spouse.
- Identifying those inward desires reframes conflict from blame to understanding.
Conflicts Are Clashing Desires
- Many marital conflicts are simply clashing desires, not moral failures.
- Seeing arguments as competing wants helps pinpoint the real issue beneath positions.
Positions Versus Underlying Interests
- Distinguishing positions from interests helps turn arguments into productive conversations.
- Understanding underlying desires reveals negotiable interests beneath stated positions.
