Ep. 7 - Acting "Alpha" Won't Score you Points in Norway (& Norwegian Mentality: Unfiltered)
Oct 10, 2023
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The podcast explores Norwegian culture and how it influences connections and dating. Topics discussed include the 'tall poppy syndrome' and its impact on society, changing teenage confidence, friendship and loneliness in Scandinavia, unexpected connections through disagreement, dating culture and expectations in Norway, attitudes towards sex and dating, and communication styles and values in relationships.
In Norway, the dating scene is casual with low-commitment activities and a focus on finding a balance in paying for dates.
Norwegian culture tends to prioritize acquaintances over deep friendships, but younger generations are challenging this norm.
Gender roles in Norwegian dating are becoming less rigid, with a focus on self-sufficiency and equality.
Deep dives
Dating in Norway: Low-pressure and Split Bills
In Norway, the dating scene typically involves low-commitment activities like grabbing coffee or a beer. The expectation is to keep it casual and not put pressure on the other person. When it comes to paying, it is common for the bill to be split or for each person to take turns paying. The idea is that self-sufficiency is valued, and there isn't a strong expectation for one person to always foot the bill. Initiating the date often comes with the responsibility of paying, but it is also acceptable for both parties to contribute. It's all about finding a balance and being considerate of each other's preferences.
Overcoming Loneliness and Making Norwegian Friends
Norwegian culture can be guarded when it comes to forming social connections. Norwegians tend to be more interested in acquaintances rather than making deep friendships. The fear of bothering or being seen as needy prevents many Norwegians from opening up and sharing their inner thoughts and feelings. This fear of judgment and the pressure to maintain a certain image can contribute to feelings of loneliness. However, with the influence of globalization and social media, younger generations are starting to challenge these norms and make more connections. Building friendships in Norway often starts with shared activities or a relaxed setting, allowing time for trust and comfort to develop.
Navigating Gender Roles in Norwegian Dating
Gender roles in Norwegian dating are becoming less rigid, but some expectations still exist. While it is usually the person who initiates the date who pays, it is common for the bill to be split or for each person to take turns paying. Norwegians value self-sufficiency and independence, and a show of equality is appreciated. Women in Norway often prefer not to feel like they owe anything in return for a paid date. Chivalry is generally seen as nice but not necessarily expected. It is important to approach dating in Norway with a relaxed and considerate mindset, focusing on getting to know each other and finding a connection on equal terms.
Cultural Clashes and Dating Experiences
Dating experiences can vary when dating someone from a different culture. Different expectations and traditions around dating can lead to misunderstandings and clashes. It is important to have open and honest communication and to be mindful of cultural differences. Topics like who pays on a date can be sensitive and have different interpretations. It's important to recognize that cultural backgrounds and personal beliefs shape our expectations and actions. Sharing personal stories and experiences can shed light on the challenges and learning opportunities that arise when dating across cultures.
Attitude towards dating and money
In the podcast episode, the hosts discuss the issue of using others for free meals while dating. They share personal anecdotes about people taking advantage of them and discuss how materialistic attitudes can influence dating dynamics. The hosts express the importance of finding someone genuine and highlight the need for low-maintenance, cost-effective dates to focus on getting to know each other rather than financial extravagance.
Hookup culture and attitudes towards sex
The podcast also delves into the topic of hookup culture and attitudes towards sex in Norway. They discuss the prevalence of casual sexual encounters and the potential consequences of viewing others solely as means to fulfill sexual desires. The hosts explore the distinction between relationships and hookups, highlighting the tendency for people to prioritize sexual pleasure without a commitment or emotional connection. They reflect on societal expectations and the challenges of developing meaningful relationships in a culture that values sexual freedom but struggles with committing to romantic partnerships.
This week I sit down with Sondre from Norway, who I met on the street this summer while interviewing locals in Oslo on the subject of Norwegian cultural stereotypes and dating. We chat about Norwegian culture and how the Norwegian mindset affects connection: making friends and dating. Our past video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8dTp4qq2SQ
Each week I will interview guests from all around the world on the topics of culture, connection and of course, dating. The goal is to go as deep as possible and to really understand where we all come from and how much culture influences our life.
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