Ep 212: 10 Questions For Every Room You're In (with Emily P. Freeman)
Mar 21, 2024
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Join the conversation with Emily P. Freeman as she shares 10 questions for discerning our sense of belonging in various rooms of life. Explore topics like choosing rooms, listening to the body, inclusion dynamics, desire in decision-making, and navigating uncertainty for personal growth.
Reflect on intentional vs. default room choices for self-awareness.
Identify and confront avoided areas in a room for personal growth.
Acknowledge and appreciate the positive aspects within a room for holistic evaluation.
Deep dives
Exploring Room Dynamics: Choosing or Being Chosen
Consider whether you chose the room or if it chose you, reflecting on the significance of the room's origin in your life. This self-assessment seeks to acknowledge the influence of pre-existing spaces and the value of intentional selections over default placements.
Addressing Avoidance: Confronting Unseen Aspects
Delve into the corners, aspects, or individuals within the room that you tend to avoid or ignore, highlighting potential areas of discomfort or evasion. This introspective question prompts identifying elements driving avoidance behaviors and encourages a candid examination of neglected facets within the room.
Identifying Room Qualities: Unveiling Beauty and Benefits
Spotlight the positive and beautiful attributes within the room, recognizing its merits and appealing aspects. This inquiry aims to uncover the valuable elements that enhance your experience and contribute to the room's allure, aiding in a more comprehensive evaluation of its impact on your life.
Distinguish caution flags signaling potential concerns or hesitations that warrant attention, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging early indicators before they escalate into critical issues. By categorizing concerns as caution flags, this approach encourages a thoughtful assessment of potential warning signs without immediate judgment or rash decisions.
Room Inclusion and Self-Reflection
Consider who is missing from the room and whether their absence is intentional or unintentional. Reflect on how your relationships, whether one-on-one or group settings, may impact others' presence in the room. Acknowledge the importance of recognizing exclusion and intentional inclusion in various room dynamics.
Power Dynamics and Personal Awareness
Evaluate power dynamics within the room and identify who holds influence. Reflect on your own sense of power and how you navigate spaces where you may not hold a position of authority. Consider the impact of power dynamics on decision-making and relationships within the room.
Emily says, "Our whole life is like a house, and every commitment, community, role, and relationship is like a room." In this conversation, Emily and I continue her room metaphor and she asks 10 Questions from her book that we can use to discern our own sense of belonging, and our choices to stay or leave.
The framework of these 10 questions is perfect for 10 Things To Tell You and I loved unpacking each of these questions and concepts with Emily.