This Filipino American Life

Episode 226 – Filipino American Masculinity

Feb 4, 2025
In this thought-provoking discussion, guests Don Martinez, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and Joseph Reynoso, a psychoanalytic psychologist, dive into the complexities of Filipino American masculinity. They explore the clash between traditional gender roles and contemporary expectations, reflecting on how familial obligations shape personal identity. The conversation challenges narrow definitions of manhood, addresses the impact of societal pressures, and promotes a more inclusive understanding of emotional vulnerability among Filipino men.
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ANECDOTE

Parental Expectations of Worth

  • Don Martinez's mother believed he had "nothing to offer" after a breakup at 30 because of his unstable career.
  • His father seemingly agreed, stating he saw "absolutely nothing" of worth in him, emphasizing a need for traditional provider status.
INSIGHT

Implicit Assimilation Pressure

  • Joseph Reynoso's parents encouraged assimilation, implicitly discouraging connection with Filipino roots.
  • This lack of explicit guidance left him feeling conflicted and without a firm cultural identity.
ANECDOTE

Adopting a Persona for Safety

  • Don, growing up in a diverse expat community, internalized a focus on modernity and rationalism.
  • Moving to a white community, he observed the racial dynamics and adopted a "cool Hawaiian" persona for safety.
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