The Quickie: How To Have A Thriving Love Life With The 5 Love Languages

Feb 10, 2021

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Welcome to this week's Quickie, our super fast take on all the adulting things that matter to you. Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and we’ve got love on the brain! So, today we’re talking about the five Love Languages, what they mean, and tips for dating each type.

The Five Love Languages was written by marriage counsellor, Dr. Gary Chapman, and has sold over twelve million copies worldwide— it’s been on the New York Times best-sellers list since 2007! It has totally changed the way we show up for our partners and give them the kind of love that they need.

Dr. Chapman noticed that couples often had similar complaints that boiled down to a single feeling: “I feel like my partner doesn’t love me.” Starting to recognize a pattern, he discovered that there were five categories on how people could give their partner the love they need: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.

Each of us has a primary love language that speaks to us more deeply, but that doesn’t mean we don’t still need the other four (we’ll never say no to a thoughtful gift)! And these don’t only apply to romantic relationships. You can identify the love languages of your parents, friends, boss and co-workers, too, so use them to form stronger relationships with everyone in your life! #winning

Listen to our chat to learn more about:

The importance ‘Words of Affirmation’ play in making you feel understood: 2:47
How to spend ‘Quality Time’ together when you see each other 24/7 or are in a LDR: 5:38
Why ‘Receiving Gifts’ isn’t as superficial as it sounds: 12:15
How ‘Acts of Service’ can make your partner’s day: 14:20
Why ‘Physical Touch’ is more than just sexy time: 17:28
Two easy ways to find yours and your partner’s love language: 20:22
Cailyn’s top love languages and how learning them made her relationship thrive: 21:04
Gill’s top love languages and how they can change throughout her life: 23:31

We hope this episode helps you speak the same language of love with the people you care about, and inspires you to keep the spark alive!

Take Dr.Chapman’s free quiz to find out your love language: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/

Date Night In a Box: https://datenightinbox.com/

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