This Is Actually Happening 387: What if your partner accused you of attempted murder?
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Dec 9, 2025 Anonymous, an anesthesia provider in California, shares a gripping first-person account of being falsely accused of attempted murder by his partner. He explores his childhood background of trauma and abandonment, the pressures of caretaking, and the impact of loss. The narrative delves into his experiences with legal turmoil and the dehumanizing conditions in jail, culminating in the relief of having the charges dismissed. Ultimately, he reflects on the journey of rebuilding his life, learning self-compassion, and addressing deep-seated patterns of self-abandonment.
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Childhood Abandonment Shaped His Core Fears
- Anonymous describes childhood abandonment and immigrant pressure to assimilate, which shaped his chronic fear of being unseen.
- That early self-abandonment set the pattern he later recreated in relationships and caregiving roles.
Self-Abandonment Masqueraded As Compassion
- Anonymous realized he learned to abandon himself to receive love and became a peacemaker to survive family contradictions.
- That survival skill later made it hard to know his own wants and set limits in adult relationships.
Choosing Hospice Work From Personal Resonance
- He trained as a nurse and chose hospice to be present with vulnerable people because it resonated with his own feeling unseen.
- That work reinforced his identity as a caregiver and deepened his emotional labor in relationships.