A Compelling Vision of Friendship (with Rebecca McLaughlin)
Jan 16, 2024
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Rebecca McLaughlin, apologist and author, discusses her book on friendship and how we can learn from Jesus and Paul. The podcast explores the lost virtue of friendship, the church's lack of emphasis on singleness, physical affection between same-sex friends, navigating diverse friendships, and a nuanced approach to the Billy Graham rule.
Recovering a biblical understanding of friendship is crucial for the Christian community, as they have often neglected the importance of non-sexual, non-romantic love and friendship.
The New Testament highlights the multifaceted nature of friendship, encompassing sacrifice, companionship, and sibling-like love, emphasizing the need for a broader understanding and practice of love and friendship as commanded by Jesus.
Deep dives
The Importance of Rediscovering Biblical Friendship
In this podcast episode, Rebecca McLaughlin discusses the need to recover a biblical understanding of friendship, rooted in the example of Jesus. She highlights that the Christian community has often neglected the importance of non-sexual, non-romantic love and friendship, resulting in a loss of the biblical vision for these relationships. McLaughlin argues that the Bible is clear on its stance on same-sex sexual relationships for Christians, but also presents a beautiful and life-giving vision for non-sexual love between people of the same sex. She emphasizes that friendship should not be seen as optional or secondary, but as a central part of Christian discipleship. McLaughlin draws insights from the New Testament, highlighting the loving relationships Jesus had with his disciples, as well as the close friendships between Paul and others. She also challenges common stereotypes and misconceptions about friendship, including the need for physical affection, appropriate boundaries, and the importance of inclusivity within the church family.
Reimagining Church as Family
Rebecca McLaughlin shares her perspective on the importance of reimagining the church as a family, based on the New Testament teachings. She discusses the need to prioritize relationships within the church, viewing fellow believers as brothers and sisters in Christ. McLaughlin emphasizes that the church should extend love, care, and inclusion to all its members, particularly those who may feel lonely or isolated. She challenges the prevailing notion that marriage is prioritized over other relationships within the church, asserting that friendship should be valued and fostered as an integral part of Christian discipleship. McLaughlin shares a personal example of intentionally sitting apart from her husband during church services to demonstrate the inclusivity and love that should characterize the church as a family.
Exploring the Nature of Friendship in the New Testament
Rebecca McLaughlin delves into the New Testament's teachings on friendship and examines different Greek words used to describe friendship. She emphasizes that the New Testament presents a multifaceted understanding of friendship, ranging from the close, sacrificial love exemplified by Jesus, to the companionship and camaraderie shared among believers. McLaughlin also highlights the significance of brotherly and sisterly love described in the New Testament, which goes beyond voluntary associations and emphasizes the importance of loving and investing in all members of the church family. She challenges the tendency to reduce intimacy solely to marital or parent-child relationships, advocating for a broader understanding and practice of love and friendship as commanded by Jesus.
Navigating Physical Affection in Friendships
Rebecca McLaughlin addresses the topic of physical affection in friendships, particularly within the context of same-sex friendships. She acknowledges the varying cultural norms and individual comfort levels surrounding physical contact, emphasizing the need for wisdom, discernment, and mutual understanding. McLaughlin argues that appropriate physical affection between believers, including hugging and greeting one another with a holy kiss, is a valuable aspect of healthy relationships within the church. She cautions against rigid rules or generalizations and suggests that each person should evaluate their own boundaries, ensuring they prioritize purity and love in their interactions.
Why would an apologist write a book on friendship? What can we learn about friendship from the example and teachings of Jesus and Paul? How can we recover the lost art of friendship? In this interview, Sean and Scott talk with Rebecca McLaughlin about her new book No Greater Love: A Biblical Vision of Friendship.
Rebecca McLaughlin holds a Ph.D. in Renaissance Literature from Cambridge University. Her first book Confronting Christianity was named book of the year by Christianity Today. She is a popular speaker who lives in Cambridge, Massachusetts, with her husband, three children, and church family.
Think Biblically: Conversations on Faith and Culture is a podcast from Talbot School of Theology at Biola University, which offers degrees both online and on campus in Southern California.
To submit comments, ask questions, or make suggestions on issues you'd like us to cover or guests you'd like us to have on the podcast, email us at thinkbiblically@biola.edu.
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