281 Get Some Good With Good Radio Network Founder, Frankie Picasso

Dec 25, 2017

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Frankie Picasso is an International SocialPreneur, Talk Show Host, and Champion for Change who has been transforming lives and influencing culture for the past 30 years. Professionally, she is a Certified Life, Business and Master Coach Trainer, Author, Artist, Activist and Philanthropist in training, who just happens to specialize in the Impossible! As the founder of The Good Radio Network, (TGRN) Frankie is the host of Mission Unstoppable Radio, FrankieSense & More Radio. Everything that Frankie is involved in, has Social Impact built in. TGRN is one vehicle for social impact and her artwork is another. As a professional Artist, Frankie’s paintings have been featured in the International Book of Contemporary Artists Volume 6 and can be found on Fine Art America, Frankie’s book Midlife Mojo won her recognition and the Finalist WINNER award as one of the “50 Great Writers you should be Reading in 2015!” She is also a Huffington post contributor, and a member of the Women’s Economic Council and the Evolutionary Business Council.

Contact Info

Website: TheGoodRadioNetwork.com
Email: CoachPicasso@rogers.com
Facebook: Unstoppable Frankie Picasso

Most Influential Person

My dad
Nigel Varty (Mountain Climber)

Effect on Emotions

I've learned to respond versus react. I learn to ask myself, who am I? In that I get to create the person I want to be in the world.

Thoughts on Breathing

I'm not very good at it. I try to do the slow breathing. I don't know why I don't want to take a full breath. I'm lazy.
I have tried all the mindfulness techniques of breathing. Especially as a hypnotherapist I learn all these things.
I do try to take that earth breath. When you need to get calm, I take this big earth breath; in for seven and out for ten. It does ground you. That is a good technique. I think it's a Hawaiian technique.

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Bullying Story

I've got two stories. I'm going to tell you a story from a female perspective.
I bullied myself and it wasn't until maybe five years ago that I realized. I remember one day when I was so mean to myself; my thoughts were so mean.
I screamed at myself out loud to 'stop it'. I said, 'you would never say that to anyone else. Why are you saying that to you? I know you would never, ever say those words to anyone else, living or dead, so stop it.'
I think especially woman, as it relates to our bodies, we are very cruel to ourselves. We give ourselves cruel messages all the time and we need to stop doing it. The only way to do that is to be mindful and to hear the words that we're saying. It stopped. Now when they come up, I say, no, no, no.
When you stop and you hear your thought and you go, do I believe that? We don't often question our beliefs.
As coaches, that's one of the first things we do with people. We say, what do you believe. In the spiritual terms and the law of attraction, what you believe is what shows up in your life. If you don't have the things that you think you want, it's because you don't believe in them. That's another story.
That's a really interesting way to look at bullying, but we do bully ourselves. The second story is, I was married to an abusive alcoholic. He was abusive emotionally and physically. He was a bully.
He was my second husband. He wasn't my children's dad. If I were to kiss my boys goodnight, he would call them girls. That is a form of bullying.
When it got so bad that I thought my oldest would get between us and hit him, I just stopped that right in it's tracks because I was afraid that he would have a record (my son) and he would never be able to do what he wanted to do in his life.
Second Story. After my accident and I was in the hospital, I had a lawyer and he was extremely mean to me.
This is a story about how I learned to respond instead of react. He would have me in tears, he would send me nasty letters.
I thought, wait a minute, you work for me. It was a big case and he was crazy, but I had a really good friend who had the same lawyer and he was so nice to him. I thought, why is he so mean to me? Does he not like girls? What is it?
Eventually, he got fired, but I learned that I didn't have to accept that. I learned that I could choose not to open those letters. I could choose to do things that made me feel better.
I want everyone to know that that's your choice. You can choose to react or you can choose to respond.