Mystery, Erik von Markovik - The Michael Sartain Podcast
Mar 6, 2024
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Erik von Markovik aka Mystery discusses his transition from 'pickup artistry' to family values, evolution of social dynamics, dating strategies, navigating dating apps, showcasing higher value, favorite travel destinations, AI-powered interactive fiction creation, favorite cities and club scenes, a wingman's role, attraction dynamics, global travel plans, community forums evolution, and course creation with a guest.
Establishing leadership and compliance is crucial for simplifying the attraction phase.
Driving deeper connections through compliance momentum and positive interaction patterns.
Leveraging pre-selection and social proof to amplify appeal and social standing.
Enhancing relationship outcomes by managing logistics effectively and planning meetups in accessible venues.
Deep dives
Importance of Establishing Leadership and Compliance in Interactions
Establishing leadership and compliance play crucial roles in interactions. Demonstrating leadership provides social value and can simplify the attraction phase. The willingness to emote and walk away showcases boundaries and a sense of abundance, enhancing a person's desirability.
Utilizing Compliance Momentum and Yes Ladder for Relationship Progression
Compliance momentum and the Yes ladder can be pivotal in relationship evolution. By rewarding small acts of compliance and creating a positive momentum, individuals can move towards securing greater commitments. Utilizing these techniques can drive a deeper connection and reinforce positive interaction patterns.
Applying Pre-Selection and Social Proof in Social Circles
Pre-selection and social proof are powerful concepts in social dynamics. Being surrounded by individuals of value and desirability communicates attractiveness and can influence others' perceptions positively. Leveraging these elements strategically can amplify one's appeal and social standing within a group.
Navigating Logistics and Proximity for Relationship Success
Logistics and proximity play a significant role in relationship dynamics. Being conveniently located for social gatherings or dates can simplify interactions and foster stronger connections. Planning meetups in accessible venues and managing logistics effectively can enhance the likelihood of successful outcomes in relationships.
Importance of Delusional Belief in Oneself
Believing in oneself with a delusional confidence can be a powerful tool in success. When facing doubts or critiques, the approach of doing first before talking about it can be more effective than seeking validation.
Focus on Competence Over Confidence
Emphasizing competence in conversation and actions can be more enriching than projecting confidence alone. Being well-prepared with knowledge and smooth delivery reduces anxiety and ensures a more effective communication.
Global Rating of Cities for Romantic Endeavors
Different cities offer varying opportunities and environments for forming connections and relationships. Locations like Kiev, St. Petersburg, Helsinki, Barcelona, and several South American cities provide distinct atmospheres and possibilities for individuals seeking love and companionship.
Erik von Markovik aka Mystery ( IG @askmystery ) was the first live, in-field pick up instructor in the world. He's the subject of the NY Times best seller, "The Game" by Neil Strauss. He was the star of "VH1's The Pickup Artist" and he was the creator of the "Mystery Method" and "The Venutian Arts Handbook" @askmystery
After an almost 10 year hiatus, Erik and his partner Rob Beckster are conducting live in-field training again.
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0:00 Intro 0:58 Having children 2:27 Meeting Mystery 5:10 Neil Strauss & Jessica Alba 6:08 Becoming famous and mainstream 7:29 *The changes in game in the last 20 years 12:19 *Direct vs indirect game 14:12 *“Don’t sexualize the conversation” 15:56 Integrating dating apps 17:42 Using social media to help your dating 19:11 Text messaging vs DMs 20:39 The pillow pit era 23:11 Using pre-selection 25:31 The dual-induction massage 26:46 *Instructing your girl pivot 29:47 *Can men and women be friends? 31:49 Knowing Mystery is alive and well 34:57 Doing panel shows and podcasts 35:40 How many people Mystery has helped 36:17 The Red Pill and the Manosphere 39:39 The concept of qualification 42:25 Attraction is hardwired in our psychology 44:16 Expressing DHVs 48:06 *Being a leader of men 49:43 *The willingness to walk away 51:26 *Reward compliance, not attention 53:34 Correlation between sales and pick-up 54:42 *The M3 Model 56:37 *Logistics 59:48 Having a delusional belief in yourself 1:00:35 Competence over confidence 1:01:20 Favorite places to travel 1:04:25 Fascination with AI 1:06:21 Issues coming back into the US 1:07:09 *Best US cities to go out 1:10:40 Matador 1:11:51 Goals for later on in your life 1:13:04 The secret infield videos 1:15:23 Living with Courtney Love 1:17:05 Social media makes girls not go out 1:18:19 What makes a good wingman 1:19:52 Attraction is not a choice 1:22:03 What to look for in a long-term partner 1:25:34 *How to get out of the friend zone 1:28:18 Working with Lovedrop 1:29:49 Working with Beckster 1:31:34 Doing more content 1:32:32 How Beckster met Mystery 1:34:08 Dividing up the business responsibilities 1:46:08 Attending podcasts and panel shows 1:37:05 Moving into a private life 1:39:00 Travel plans 1:40:03 Having a community forum 1:41:51 The first to create the pick-up industry 1:43:17 Social media
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