The Dad Was Right There... But Didn't See: Lessons from Netflix's 'Adolescence' (Part 1)

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May 2, 2025

The discussion dives into the heart-wrenching lessons from the Netflix series 'Adolescence,' revealing how even attentive parents can overlook their children's emotional struggles. It explores the tragic story of Jamie Miller, emphasizing the dire consequences of parental disconnect. Listeners learn why common questions like 'How was your day?' can stifle meaningful conversations. The importance of fostering open communication is underscored, along with practical tips for creating a safe space for kids to express their feelings. Awareness is key to preventing serious issues.

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ANECDOTE

Jamie’s Tragic Hidden Struggles

Jamie, a 13-year-old boy, commits a shocking crime that his family never anticipated.
Despite physical presence, his father misses the emotional struggles Jamie endures, leading to tragic consequences.

INSIGHT

Emotional Blind Spots Explained

Busyness, ego, and cultural conditioning blind fathers to their children's emotional pain.
These factors create dangerous emotional blind spots, hindering deep connection and awareness.

ADVICE

Ask Meaningful Questions

Avoid surface-level questions like "How was your day?" which yield shallow answers.
Ask meaningful questions to encourage your kids to open up and share deeply.

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What If “I Know My Kid” Isn’t Enough?

We all like to think we know our kids. That they’re good. That they’re okay.

But what if being “present” isn’t the same as being connected?

In this episode, I dive into the gut-wrenching lessons from the hit Netflix series Adolescence, unpacking the story of Jamie Miller — a 13-year-old boy whose silent struggles lead to a heartbreaking tragedy that blindsides his family.

I reflect on how even well-meaning, hardworking dads — myself included — can miss the emotional warning signs hiding in plain sight. And I get real about the cultural myths we buy into that keep us from going deeper with our kids.

This episode isn’t about guilt. It’s about awareness, ownership, and action.

If you’ve ever said “my kid is fine,” this might be the most important podcast you hear all year.

I’ll also give you practical tools to start asking better questions, create a space of psychological safety, and build the kind of connection your kids can count on—especially when life gets heavy.

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In this episode, I share:

Why “How was your day?” might be the most dangerous question we ask.
The three emotional blind spots that cost parents connection and trust.
How to ask powerful questions that open your kids up (without forcing it).
Why being a good provider isn’t enough—and what your family really needs.
What to say (and not say) when your kid finally opens up.

Here's what research supports about the power of action and intention:

Studies show that couples who engage in regular, small acts of kindness report a 28% increase in relationship satisfaction.
Research indicates that setting specific, shared goals increases the likelihood of improved communication and intimacy by 35%.
Prioritizing quality time has been shown to reduce feelings of loneliness in relationships by 20%.

If you're ready to stop waiting for motivation and start actively building a stronger, more connected marriage, this episode is for you. Let's take that first step together.