Grits and Eggs Podcast Episode 110 - Dropping the Mask ft. 5hahem
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Dec 23, 2025 
Shahem "5hahem" McLaurin, a licensed social worker and internet therapist, shares his insights on mental health, masculinity, and community issues. He discusses the loneliness epidemic, the impact of social media, and the complexities of male identity in a patriarchal society. Shahem highlights the roots of homophobia in the Black community and advocates for emotional expression among men. He reflects on his own coming out journey and the importance of self-discovery, urging listeners to question societal norms and embrace authenticity.
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Loneliness Fueled By Social Media And Economics
- Social media amplifies men's loneliness by reinforcing narratives and isolating people from physical community.
- Shahem links economic strain, capitalism, and manipulated online content as drivers of male loneliness and radicalization.
Homophobia Harms The Whole Community
- Homophobia in Black communities is reinforced by proximity, religious indoctrination, and patriarchal expectations.
- Shahem argues homophobia ultimately harms straight Black men by enforcing hypermasculinity that dehumanizes and criminalizes them.
Question Beliefs By Asking Why
- Ask 'why' repeatedly to unearth who taught your beliefs and whether they truly fit you.
- Shahem and Deontay recommend childlike curiosity to question religion, gender roles, and inherited norms.