Your Kids Don’t Suck: Cultivating Closeness with your Kids through Non-Coercive, Conscious Parenting Unpacking Attachment Wounds and How They Affect Our Parenting
Nov 7, 2025
Dive into the complex world of attachment wounds and their lasting effects on parenting. The hosts reveal how our childhood experiences can unconsciously influence our relationships with our own children. Discover the concept of 'The Psychic Apology' as a unique tool for accountability and connection. They explore the challenge of healing attachment trauma, and the importance of negotiating boundaries without dominance. Join them as they highlight the value of empathic listening and understanding the emotional needs of sensitive kids.
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Attachment Is Biological And Survival-Based
- Attachment is a biological survival system that shapes the brain from womb onward.
- We attach to whatever caregiver is present, including neglect or violence.
Choosing A Family Of Choice At Age Five
- Rythea decided at age five to stop attaching to her parents and attach to friends instead.
- That choice helped her build a chosen family that kept her sane into adulthood.
Control Often Masks Self-Blame
- Parents often control children to avoid feeling blamed or powerless about their own pain.
- Self-blame can drive coercion, turning parenting into an attempt to fix internal shame.
