Can a Nice guy become a Great guy? With Tony Endelman
Aug 30, 2023
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Tony Endelman shares his journey from loneliness to fulfillment in New Orleans, touching on battling depression and learning from Dr. Robert Glover. The discussion dives into the importance of setting boundaries in relationships and valuing inner qualities. Tony's book 'Big Stick' merges Dr. Glover's teachings with personal experiences for holistic self-improvement.
Establishing boundaries is crucial in relationships to prioritize inner qualities over physical attraction.
Seeking guidance from mentors and joining men's groups can lead to significant personal growth and transformation.
Deep dives
Overcoming Misery and Seeking Change
After facing various struggles in life, including a series of failures and deep unhappiness, the interviewee found himself in a miserable state. His journey towards personal transformation began by changing his environment, moving to a new city. Despite feeling lonely and overwhelmed, he sought out different approaches to self-improvement, including therapy and self-reflection.
The Impact of Losing a Father
The sudden loss of the interviewee's father triggered a period of loneliness, depression, and seeking answers through conventional and unconventional methods. Reflecting on his father's stoic nature raised questions about the role of suppressed emotions in health. The concept of chronic anger and its potential impact on physical well-being was explored.
Challenges in Relationships and Self-Perception
In relationships, the interviewee identified a pattern of attracting emotionally unavailable partners and displaying intense neediness. He acknowledged struggling with self-esteem, insecurity, and overlooking red flags due to a lack of boundaries. Being open about such experiences highlighted common challenges men face and the importance of self-awareness in addressing them.
Importance of Seeking Support and Investing in Self-Development
Acknowledging the need for support and personal growth, the interviewee emphasized the necessity of seeking guidance from coaches, therapists, or joining men's groups. Stressing the value of investing in oneself, he shared his journey of change inspired by Dr. Robert Glover's teachings. By confronting limiting beliefs and behaviors, he experienced significant personal transformation and the benefits of working with other men.
Ask us a question & we'll answer on the show (click here to msg us)Picture a life stuck in stagnation, filled with loneliness and self-doubt. That was Tony Endelman's existence in Omaha, until he embarked on a transformative journey to a fulfilling life in New Orleans. Today, Tony shares his deeply personal struggle with depression, his loss of a father figure, and how he found solace in a supportive community. We venture into the potency of men's work and the teachings of Dr. R...
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