Discovering Your Theme: How to Understand Yourself and Your Partner Better - Aaron Steinberg | Ep 25

Coach Aaron Steinberg shares habits and tools for more open, empathetic communication in relationships. He emphasizes the importance of understanding each person's core "themes" or needs, which often stem from childhood experiences. Rather than making assumptions, Steinberg recommends practicing mindfulness, curiosity and the "FAQ Method" of sharing experiences without over-synthesizing. Steinberg also discusses the transformative impact of parenthood on relationships and identities. He suggests habits like self-reflection, emotional regulation and willingness to grow to help couples reharmonize themes and deepen understanding through life's challenges. 

Takeaways:

• Each person has 2-3 core "themes" or needs that drive their behavior in relationships, often stemming from childhood experiences.
• Relationships involve navigating where one person's themes feel opposed to their partner's themes. This creates natural feedback loops.
• Mindfulness, curiosity and the "FAQ Method" can help partners move past assumptions to truly understand each other's perspectives.
• Sweeping issues under the rug is a relationship killer. Address misunderstandings sincerely as soon as possible for long-term satisfaction.
• Understanding relationship themes and communication habits can help couples weather challenges with deeper connection rather than dissolution.

Resources:

• Maharishi School of the Age of Enlightenment - the school Aaron Steinberg attended that taught Transcendental Meditation
• Greetings from Utopia Park by Claire Hoffman
• Gottman Institute - Research organization led by John Gottman studying relationships

‍Connect with Aaron Steinberg:

• www.thegrowtogetherco.com
• Email: aaron@thegrowtogetherco.com
• Instagram: @thegrowtogetherco

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