
It's Been a Minute Black women in their 30s: Then vs. Now
Jan 19, 2026
Brittany Luse, host of NPR's culture podcast and essayist, dives deep into the lasting impact of Terry McMillan's "Waiting to Exhale". She shares how the book mirrors conversations from her childhood and discusses its role as a cultural blueprint for shows like "Sex and the City". The group examines the complexities of Black women's lives in the 90s, critiques of McMillan's work, and the ongoing pressures surrounding dating and financial status. Ultimately, Brittany emphasizes how the novel remains a vital reflection of middle-class Black women's experiences today.
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Friendship Holds The Story Together
- Waiting to Exhale centers on four mid-30s Black professional women whose friendship anchors the story.
- The novel made visible everyday interior lives of middle-class Black women in the 1990s.
Reading The Book Is Growing Into It
- Brittany Luse felt she "grew into" the book and now matches the characters' ages.
- McMillan's dialogue echoes real conversations Luse heard from older women, making it feel authentic.
Author Defends Specific Storytelling
- McMillan refused to let the African-American community dictate her storytelling.
- She argued writers tell specific stories, not represent an entire race, anticipating backlash.



















