Stark Reflections on Writing and Publishing

EP 370 - Questioning & Reflecting with Becca Syme

Jul 11, 2024

Author and Gallup-Certified Strengths Coach Becca Syme discusses handling unexpected situations, Clifton Strengths, dealing with emotions in writing, and her coaching journey. Mark shares his top strengths, challenges in audiobook recording, and leveraging external motivation. Becca's books, including 'Dear Writer You Need to Quit,' spark humor. The podcast addresses writing challenges for high empathy individuals and emphasizes disconnecting from technology for creativity.

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Intro

00:00 • 3min

Indie Author Cruise Event and Feedback

03:09 • 4min

Connecting with Others and Nature

07:09 • 7min

Camping Adventures, Wedding Preparations, and Book Promotion Plans

13:51 • 2min

Book Updates, Unsolved Mysteries Trailer, and Strengths for Writers

16:04 • 13min

Navigating Writing Challenges as a High Empathy Individual

29:07 • 28min

Reflections on Disconnecting from Technology for Creativity

56:50 • 18min

Mark interviews Becca Syme, an author and a Gallup-Certified Strengths Coach who has been helping writers with coaching success alignment for more than a decade.

Prior to the interview, Mark thanks Patrons and Buy Me A Coffee buddies, shares comments from recent episode, a personal update, and a word from this episode's sponsor.

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In the interview Mark and Becca talk about:

How Becca deals with unexpected situations such as someone being late for a virtual meeting (Mark was 20 minutes late getting to this interview) and how this aligns with her strength of "Arranger"
The Clifton Strengths personality metric and how Becca uses it to help writers
Mark's top 5 strengths and Becca's top 5 strengths
The pros and cons that come with a strength such as Empathy
How emotions can have residue - that emotions are not false just because they're fictional
Becca first taking the Clifton Strengths in 2005 and then immediately wanting to become certified and to figure this out; which is when her coaching began
The "Dear Writer"/"Question The Premise" books that Becca has written to help writers
How Becca's first book "Dear Writer You Need to Quit" has become a running joke, especially from people who have never read the book and have only heard the title
The challenge related to the new place Becca lives and trying to get audiobooks recorded
People who are pressure-prompted and the leveraging external motivation VS internal motivation
A look at home office versus having an office space separate from the home and how that can work better for some people
How our visions of ourselves are not correct because so much of it is based on impressions we were fed before we were able to effectively grasp a more pure vision of ourselves
Being able to look at what's often seen as a weakness as a strength
How even the more benign moments and experiences in childhood can have a dramatic life-long impact upon us
The way that Becca questions almost everything, including the thoughts and feelings that she has
Being an intuitive writer verses writing a book to outline
How 100% of the things that "everyone says" are for everyone, are definitely NOT for everyone
That most people are not lying to you, but they are lying to themselves, often because they just don't understand
How a person who NEVER questions themself is a major red flag
The "reach for my phone" game that Becca plays when she's traveling or out in public
The 12-Hour Walk
Becca dating someone who was comfortably disconnected from their phone, rarely ever reaching for it, but just being in the moment
The problem with interrupting the thought cycle and being able to get all the way to the bottom of the cognitive process
And more . . .

After the interview Mark reflects on a handful of things that came up in their conversation, which he felt was a lot of good therapy for him.

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Becca Syme (MATL) is a Gallup-Certified Strengths Coach and has been coaching success alignment for more than a decade. She is the author of the Quitbooks for Writers series and the popular Write Better-Faster course. She also writes mystery novels in her spare time and lives on one of the thousand lakes in Minnesota.

The introductory, end, and bumper music for this podcast (“Laser Groove”) was composed and produced by Kevin MacLeod of www.incompetech.com and is Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0