Dial Emma Toxic Complaining: How people-pleasing shows up at work
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Jul 7, 2025 Dive into the challenges of navigating toxic complaining among colleagues. Discover how people-pleasing tendencies can backfire and impact workplace dynamics. The discussion unpacks the psychological drivers behind these behaviors, revealing how early family experiences shape our actions. Gain insights into the importance of authenticity and setting boundaries to maintain a healthy work environment. It's a relatable and enlightening exploration for anyone feeling responsible for others' emotions.
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People-Pleasing Disowns Own Needs
- People pleasers often disown their own needs and focus excessively on others' needs.
- This pattern causes distress when efforts to help fail, leading them to double down on people-pleasing behaviors.
Trauma Edges in Complaining
- Different levels of complaining exist; some people use it to connect through shared struggle.
- 'Toxic complaining' can signal two people's trauma edges rubbing against each other.
Change Yourself, Not Others
- When people-pleasing doesn't work, shift focus from pleasing others to changing yourself.
- Avoid trying to be more palatable; instead, explore what you need and want to change for yourself.