Help! I am Seeing People After a While and I Don't Look the Same...
Nov 3, 2023
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Georgie, a body image coach, and Christina, a personal change specialist, delve into the common anxieties of seeing friends after a long time. They discuss how to manage feelings of discomfort related to personal changes and emphasize the importance of focusing on meaningful interactions. The duo encourages reframing negative self-talk about body image and embracing self-acceptance during challenging times. They highlight the value of genuine connections over superficial judgments, promoting empathy and understanding in relationships.
Concerns about appearance during reunions often stem from societal pressures, but genuine connections should take precedence over physical judgments.
Recognizing that everyone experiences fluctuations in their appearance fosters self-compassion and promotes a healthier perspective on body image.
Deep dives
Navigating Anxiety About Appearance
Concerns about appearance often arise when meeting people after a significant period, such as during holidays or reunions. Many individuals experience anxiety about judgment, especially after noticeable changes in their weight or overall look. This concern is amplified by the societal pressure to maintain a certain appearance, leading to feelings of embarrassment and self-criticism. It is important to remember that everyone undergoes changes, and these fluctuations are a normal part of life to be embraced rather than feared.
Focus on Connection Over Looks
The primary purpose of reunions and gatherings is to reconnect and share experiences, rather than to scrutinize each other's appearances. Oftentimes, concerns about how one looks fade quickly once conversations begin, as genuine connections take precedence. Shifting focus away from looks allows individuals to engage in meaningful conversations about life events and personal growth. By prioritizing interactions based on shared experiences, the importance placed on appearance diminishes significantly.
Reframing Negative Self-Talk
Negative phrases around weight and appearance often stem from societal pressures and past experiences, leading many to feel they've 'let themselves go' during tough times. Instead of framing these moments as failures, individuals can reframe their thoughts to acknowledge that life events sometimes necessitate prioritizing other aspects over physical appearance. Recognizing that everyone goes through phases of struggle and growth can foster self-compassion and a more realistic view of personal changes. Ultimately, understanding that fluctuations in appearance do not define worth can promote healthier perspectives on body image.
I haven't seen these people in a while. What are they going to think? I look different. Have you ever thought that? It is a really common worry, whether you're getting together with people for a school reunion or just more holiday gatherings, we are here to help!
Join coaches Georgie and Christina as they discuss the discomfort that can come up when your body has changed since you last saw someone. We will share with you how we help people through this and give you some pointers about how you can process the uneasiness of seeing people you haven't seen in a while, knowing that your appearance is a little different.
Check out the body image episode we reference in our conversation here: https://share.transistor.fm/s/df4cdbcb
Connect with Georgie and the Confident Eaters Coaches:
Have you ever thought, "I know what to do, I just need to consistently do it"? Who hasn't? Sometimes we need accountability. Sometimes we need specific strategies, new tools, or a bit of help. If you want help to personalize how to become a confident, sensible eater with 1:1 shame-free personalized attention, sign up here.
If you are someone who struggles with binge eating or emotional eating, be sure to check out Coach Georgie's other podcast Breaking Up With Binge Eating.
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