AMA: What is hypergamy? And explain why older women are dating younger men
May 30, 2024
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In this episode, Sarah Wilson discusses hypergamy and why older women are dating younger men, exploring societal trends and cultural reflections from 2004. She delves into the evolution of relationship dynamics, highlighting the impact of hypergamy on women's dating choices and the shifting dating dynamics in today's digital dating sphere.
Hypergamy involves women dating up in status, age, and income, while men tend to partner down.
Educated older women may struggle to find suitable partners, leading them to date younger, less financially stable men.
Deep dives
Evolution of Dating Dynamics
Over the years, the traditional concept of hypergamy, where women tend to date or marry up in terms of age, status, and income, has experienced a shift. With more educated and ambitious women postponing partnerships until later in life, the availability of suitable partners has changed. This has led to a scenario where older, educated women find fewer men of similar caliber to partner with, while younger men, often less educated and financially stable, are left without suitable matches.
Impact of Educational Advancements
The trend of hypergamy being challenged is influenced by the increase in educational opportunities for women, resulting in a generation of highly educated and ambitious females. This shift has created a discrepancy where women possess higher educational statuses than their male partners in various relationships. Despite this change, disparities in pay and age distribution between partners remain largely unchanged.
Changing Relationships and Opportunities
The evolving dating landscape presents opportunities for redefining relationships outside conventional norms. As societal dynamics undergo transformation, individuals are encouraged to explore non-traditional relationship models that prioritize diverse forms of intimacy and connection. By breaking away from traditional relationship patterns, there is a chance to engage in more meaningful and authentic connections based on personal growth and mutual understanding.
In today’s AMA, I cover an intriguing phenomenon in male-female dynamics playing out in the dark, twisted underworld that is dating culture - hypergamy. The phenomenon that has existed for eons whereby women date/marry “up” in educational status, income, age, height etc and men tend to partner “down”. Where does this sit today with a generation dating online? Plus, does it explain (or not) why some older women partner with younger men?
I explain how I’ve been tracking this phenomenon for exactly 20 years, through “man droughts”, the “baby bonus”, Sex and the City tropes and more.