Jordan Harbinger discusses a listener's concern about her brother-in-law's inappropriate behavior towards her, while also providing advice on adjusting tone as a hostage negotiator. The podcast covers topics such as confronting uncomfortable family dynamics, improving self-awareness, embracing vulnerability for personal growth, and balancing environmental concerns with personal fulfillment. It also explores societal issues like witnessing aggressive behavior in public and navigating job interviews professionally.
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Recognize importance of setting boundaries with family members to protect oneself from inappropriate behavior.
Enhance self-awareness to adjust communication tone for job and relationships.
Balance personal fulfillment with environmental responsibility while respecting differing values within family dynamics.
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Attending the Festival
You wanting to attend the festival is not unreasonable, and it is recommended that you go if it will bring you joy. Your efforts to minimize your carbon footprint through various lifestyle choices are significant, and it's unfair for your sister to impose her values on you. Communicate openly with your sister about your decision to attend the festival, expressing the importance of the experience to you while respecting her views on climate change.
Addressing Climate Change Concerns
You can explain to your sister that while you share her concerns about climate change, this festival holds personal significance for you. Emphasize that you already take steps to minimize your carbon footprint and that this trip is a rare and meaningful experience for you. Encourage an open dialogue without allowing guilt trips from affecting your decision.
Balancing Personal Enjoyment and Environmental Concerns
Finding a balance between personal fulfillment and environmental responsibility is key. Acknowledge your sister's perspective on climate change while asserting your own need for enjoyment and connection. It's important to prioritize your well-being and experiences while maintaining mutual respect for differing views on this matter.
Dealing with Family Judgment and Values
Navigating family dynamics where one's values and decisions are critiqued, the podcast delves into the importance of being secure in one's values to resist external judgments. It highlights the intricacies of familial relationships and advises exploring the underlying reasons for feeling deeply affected by a sibling's opinions.
Intervening in Potential Abuse Situations
Examining a bystander's dilemma in witnessing potential abuse, the discussion centers on the complexities of intervening in such situations. It reflects on the ethical and practical considerations for stepping in to prevent harm, emphasizing the challenges of addressing emotional abuse and the importance of understanding personal limitations and potential risks involved in taking action.
Your creepy brother-in-law hit on your mom and 13-year-old sis at your wedding and now targets you, but your husband ignores it. Welcome to Feedback Friday!
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
Every time Jordan goes to the barber, he comes home with another story. Here's the latest.
It was the reddest of flags when the creepy brother-in-law-to-be hit on your mother and 13-year-old sister at your wedding. In the six years since, he's been making inappropriate advances toward you, but his brother — your husband — chooses to ignore this. How can you protect yourself and your children from this shadow-lurking predator if your husband won't?
Even when you try your best to exude warmth and empathy, you've been told your tone can come off as condescending — not ideal for your job as a hostage negotiator, and not entirely appreciated by your long-enduring wife. How can you enhance your self-awareness to adjust this tone to a more socially appropriate level?
Your sister and her family are obsessed with decreasing their carbon footprint to the point where your nephew has developed eco-anxiety. You want to attend a music festival that requires flying, but you're worried about the tension it might cause with your sister — who will definitely guilt you about choosing your own entertainment over her children's future. What should you do?
While shopping with your family, you witnessed a father verbally and physically threatening his young son in public. As a mandated reporter through your job as an educator and someone who cares about children, you're struggling with the powerless you felt in the moment and wondering if you should have intervened or reported the incident. [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
After being laid off from your job of 18 years, you applied for two positions within the company. You were far along in the process with one and ended up getting an offer, but you also interviewed for the other and made a valuable professional connection. What unexpected opportunities might arise from exploring both paths?
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!