1003: Husband's Bro's Obscene, But He Won't Intervene | Feedback Friday

Jun 14, 2024

In a gripping installment, the hosts tackle the unsettling behavior of a brother-in-law who’s been targeting a listener and her family while her husband turns a blind eye. Amidst this serious topic, they inject humor with anecdotes like a barber tale linked to an underground gambling den. They also discuss the nuances of family dynamics and the challenge of maintaining open communication. Plus, the conversation takes a turn as they navigate tough choices about intervening in situations of domestic violence, urging listeners to find their voice.

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ANECDOTE

The Gambling Den Barber Shop

Jordan Harbinger shares another barber story involving an illegal gambling den disguised as a cell phone repair shop.
The story involves a stolen gym bag, a heartfelt apology, and a missing pair of underwear.

ADVICE

Dealing with a Creepy Brother-in-Law

Address the inappropriate behavior of your brother-in-law directly and set boundaries.
Have an honest conversation with your husband about his avoidance and the impact on your family.

ADVICE

Managing Condescension

Acknowledge and accept feedback about condescending tones.
Reflect on personal sensitivities and potential shame triggers to improve communication and build rapport.

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Your creepy brother-in-law hit on your mom and 13-year-old sis at your wedding and now targets you, but your husband ignores it. Welcome to Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

Every time Jordan goes to the barber, he comes home with another story. Here's the latest.
It was the reddest of flags when the creepy brother-in-law-to-be hit on your mother and 13-year-old sister at your wedding. In the six years since, he's been making inappropriate advances toward you, but his brother — your husband — chooses to ignore this. How can you protect yourself and your children from this shadow-lurking predator if your husband won't?
Even when you try your best to exude warmth and empathy, you've been told your tone can come off as condescending — not ideal for your job as a hostage negotiator, and not entirely appreciated by your long-enduring wife. How can you enhance your self-awareness to adjust this tone to a more socially appropriate level?
Your sister and her family are obsessed with decreasing their carbon footprint to the point where your nephew has developed eco-anxiety. You want to attend a music festival that requires flying, but you're worried about the tension it might cause with your sister — who will definitely guilt you about choosing your own entertainment over her children's future. What should you do?
While shopping with your family, you witnessed a father verbally and physically threatening his young son in public. As a mandated reporter through your job as an educator and someone who cares about children, you're struggling with the powerless you felt in the moment and wondering if you should have intervened or reported the incident. [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
After being laid off from your job of 18 years, you applied for two positions within the company. You were far along in the process with one and ended up getting an offer, but you also interviewed for the other and made a valuable professional connection. What unexpected opportunities might arise from exploring both paths?
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