The Inconvenient Truth About Divorce: Bridget Phetasy on staying together for the kids.
Jul 15, 2024
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Bridget Phetasy discusses the ripple effects of divorce on adult children and grandchildren. They talk about the logic of parental happiness vs. 'staying together for the kids,' sparking a conversation online. They also share a desire to quit the content creator hustle and move to the woods. Bridget apologizes to Meghan for a haunting microaggression.
Divorce's ripple effects on adult children and grandchildren can span decades, impacting family dynamics and relationships.
Challenging societal beliefs, the podcast advocates for honest assessments of marriages to prioritize emotional well-being over maintaining appearances for children.
Deep dives
The Impact of Divorce on Adult Children
The podcast delves into the long-term effects of divorce on adult children, portrayed through personal experiences. It highlights how divorce's aftermath can create challenges well into adulthood, particularly when raising children of one's own in a divorced background. The narrative emphasizes the complexities of navigating relationships with extended family members post-divorce and the emotional labor involved in managing fractured familial dynamics.
Discussion on Post-Divorce Reflections
The podcast centers around an introspective analysis of post-divorce reflections, challenging common societal beliefs regarding divorce. It underscores the enduring impact of divorce on individuals, beyond the immediate separation, highlighting the nuanced emotional struggles and disruptions caused by the reconfiguration of family structures. The conversation sheds light on how divorce narratives are often oversimplified and how individuals address unresolved emotions and tensions from their childhood experiences.
Navigating Divorce Narratives and Societal Perceptions
The podcast addresses the evolving narratives surrounding divorce and societal perceptions of failed marriages. It questions the societal pressure to maintain marriages that lack love and advocates for a more honest appraisal of the implications of divorce, especially concerning children. The discussion challenges the myths surrounding divorce resilience and advocates for a more nuanced understanding of the complexities involved in marital dissolution and its repercussions on families and individuals.
We hear all the time that children are resilient — and should be even more so! But do divorcing parents overestimate their kids’ resilience to justify their actions? Should “staying together for the children” come back into style? Returning guest Bridget Phetasy talks about her recent article for The Spectator about an aspect of divorce that rarely gets discussed: the ripple effects over decades as adult children and grandchildren are spread thin among multiple families and step-families. Bridget’s parents, who had five children under 12 when they divorced, followed the logic that parental happiness is better for children than “staying together for the kids.” But is that really true? Bridget’s essay kicked off a huge conversation online and touched a lot of nerves (and ruffled a lot of feathers) and she and Meghan continue that conversation here.
They also talk about their shared desire to quit the content creator hustle and move to the woods. Also, Bridget apologizes to Meghan for a microaggression that’s been haunting her, even though Meghan has no memory of it.