Grief is a Sneaky Bitch

Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer | Poetic Response to Loss

Jan 21, 2026
Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, a dedicated poet and writing facilitator, shares her heartfelt journey through grief after losing her son and father. She discusses the transformative power of poetry to metabolize loss, emphasizing self-compassion and community support. With insights into the duality of love and grief, Rosemerry reflects on the playful truth in metaphorical writing. The conversation culminates in moving readings from her poignant poetry, showcasing the beauty woven through sorrow and the importance of staying open to every emotion.
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ANECDOTE

First Memory Of Grief

  • Rosemerry recalls learning to cry when her grandfather died and her mother held her on the chair.
  • That tender modeling taught her grief can be witnessed and welcomed, not hidden.
INSIGHT

Carrying Love As A Guiding Question

  • Wendy told Rosemerry, "he has given you his love light to carry," and a firefly lit up as she heard it.
  • That image became a guiding metaphor for living into the question: how do I carry his love light?
ADVICE

Accept Help And Say Yes

  • Say yes to offers of help and accept different supports; Rosemerry asked friends to "open me."
  • Ask for and receive help because grief is not meant to be carried alone.
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