You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

We Made It Weird #221

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Jul 11, 2025
Enjoy a playful dialogue on the quirks of aging and nostalgic college memories, sprinkled with humor and light-hearted banter. Delight in tales about the joys of personal hygiene and an amusing misunderstanding of song lyrics. Explore the balance of intimacy and desire in relationships, reflecting on jealousy and attachment styles. Plus, gain insights into the beauty of bodily transformations and personal growth through a whimsical discussion on childhood memories and the little moments that matter.
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INSIGHT

Intimacy Needs Balance and Tension

  • Desire in intimacy requires both closeness and tension, balancing connection with separation.
  • Esther Perel's work highlights the dance between needing closeness and craving desire in long-term relationships.
ADVICE

Use Jealousy to Create Healthy Tension

  • Encourage friendships outside your relationship but be mindful of feelings like jealousy.
  • Use feelings of jealousy as signals to create healthy tension rather than possessiveness.
ANECDOTE

Jealousy Beneath Encouragement

  • Pete Holmes shares his secret blinding jealousy about Valerie's friendships despite encouraging her to see others.
  • This tension creates an underlying emotional challenge in their relationship, likened to polyamory without benefits.
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