
Kerre Woodham Mornings Podcast Kerre McIvor: How do you live with yourself after all that carnage?
Aug 9, 2021
05:10
The community of Timaru is reeling – most of New Zealand is reeling from the news yesterday of another senseless car crash that has claimed five young lives.
Just one survivor – the driver – and five families utterly devastated.
My thoughts are with the families and the poor first responders – what an absolute nightmare for police and emergency services.
You could see the despair on the face of the Aoraki Area Commander Inspector Dave Gaskin – he knows the family of one of the boys and he said it's a tragedy that will reverberate around the community for a long time.
As he said, it’s one of the worst jobs we do.
The driver has yet to speak to police but he has already posted on social media to let his friends no he's alive, and that he is very, very sorry for the stupid mistakes he has made that has cost five lives.
He will have his own battles in the weeks and months ahead – how on earth do you live with yourself when you've caused so much carnage – and again we come back to how we protect young people from themselves and their poor decision making.
Nathan Wallis is a neuroscience educator and child development expert was on the MHB this morning and he says scaring kids straight doesn't work – they have to be given the tools to make the right decisions early.
We've all done stupid things and most of us have walked away from them.
If you have children you will know the absolute terror involved in letting them go out, go away for the weekend – putting the white light around them until they're home safely.
I gave up alcohol while Kate was at school so that Kezza's Cut Throat Kabs was available at any hour of the day or night to go and collect my daughter and her friends.
The rule was no questions asked at the time, although there may be some questions in the morning.
But ultimately you just have to hope and pray they get through the very worst of those teenage years – until their frontal cortexes have sufficiently developed.
It must bring back awful memories for those who have already lost children in senseless accidents.
Can we help protect kids from themselves and their immature decision making?
Or is getting a teenager safely into their adult years simply by guess or by god?
Just one survivor – the driver – and five families utterly devastated.
My thoughts are with the families and the poor first responders – what an absolute nightmare for police and emergency services.
You could see the despair on the face of the Aoraki Area Commander Inspector Dave Gaskin – he knows the family of one of the boys and he said it's a tragedy that will reverberate around the community for a long time.
As he said, it’s one of the worst jobs we do.
The driver has yet to speak to police but he has already posted on social media to let his friends no he's alive, and that he is very, very sorry for the stupid mistakes he has made that has cost five lives.
He will have his own battles in the weeks and months ahead – how on earth do you live with yourself when you've caused so much carnage – and again we come back to how we protect young people from themselves and their poor decision making.
Nathan Wallis is a neuroscience educator and child development expert was on the MHB this morning and he says scaring kids straight doesn't work – they have to be given the tools to make the right decisions early.
We've all done stupid things and most of us have walked away from them.
If you have children you will know the absolute terror involved in letting them go out, go away for the weekend – putting the white light around them until they're home safely.
I gave up alcohol while Kate was at school so that Kezza's Cut Throat Kabs was available at any hour of the day or night to go and collect my daughter and her friends.
The rule was no questions asked at the time, although there may be some questions in the morning.
But ultimately you just have to hope and pray they get through the very worst of those teenage years – until their frontal cortexes have sufficiently developed.
It must bring back awful memories for those who have already lost children in senseless accidents.
Can we help protect kids from themselves and their immature decision making?
Or is getting a teenager safely into their adult years simply by guess or by god?
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
