Dating Intentionally 182. Sparks vs Chemistry: How To Build Chemistry & Stop Chasing Instant Attraction (throwback)
Jul 1, 2025
Explore the intriguing differences between fleeting sparks and lasting chemistry in dating. Discover why chasing sparks can hinder your romantic prospects and how understanding brain chemistry plays a role. Gain insights into the importance of long-term compatibility over instant attraction. Learn practical strategies for building real chemistry through engaging activities and multiple interactions. Plus, uncover tips on navigating relationships when the initial butterflies seem absent, encouraging a more thoughtful approach to dating.
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Spark Is Brain Chemistry
- The spark is an initial, strong feeling of attraction triggered by brain chemicals releasing a stress and reward response.
- This spark often fades quickly and is not a reliable indicator of a lasting relationship's success.
Give Second Dates a Chance
- Stop declining second dates just because you didn't feel an immediate spark on the first date.
- If you enjoyed your time and found no major deal breakers, give the person another chance.
Three Myths About Sparks
- The spark myths are: it can't grow, it inherently means something, and it predicts relationship viability.
- A slow burn connection is more likely to last than an instant spark connection.